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I was watching Sex and the City while running on the treadmill the other day, when I caught something interesting.
As you know from this post, I gravitate towards love quotes from the most random movies/shows.
This is the SATC episode where Charlotte and Harry get married (Season 6 – The Catch), and something Carrie says really spoke to me.
Charlotte, of course, was worried about every detail during her wedding. Things went hilariously wrong, but the panic I saw in Charlotte was something I recognize in brides on their wedding day. The obsession in details and having the “perfect” day overshadowed the joy of her wedding celebration.
Don’t miss out on your wedding day – Wedding planner Calgary (via Carrie Bradshaw)
The most poignant scene during Charlotte and Harry’s wedding took place in the washroom where Carrie and Charlotte have this conversation (start at 2:14 mark — FYI, could be NSFW!):
Carrie: “You just got married.”
Charlotte: “I know but I wanted everything to be perfect.”
Carrie: “Okay, you have to stop with the tears. You already had the perfect wedding and the marriage…not so perfect.” [referring to Charlotte's first marriage]. You know I think this is a good sign. I think the worse the wedding, the better the marriage!”
Charlotte: “I have a stain on my dress.”
Carrie: “That’s good! That’s a good sign.”
Charlotte: “You’re just trying to make me feel better.”
Carrie: “No, I’m trying to get you to open your eyes because you’re missing it.”
Carrie: “Everything. You’re missing your wedding. You have a wonderful man who loves you, who will be there to catch you when you fall. Do you know how special that is? I would love to find a man who’s strong enough to catch me. So, let’s get to that reception so you can fall in a cake or something.”
Brides, this cannot be more true.
Do you know how lucky you are? You’re getting married! You are declaring to the world that you want to spend the rest of your life with another person and celebrating with your favourite people.
But of course, staying focused on this is easier said than done. Most brides are thinking about the million+ things involved in the wedding day, and it’s natural to be concerned.
That’s why you need to join me next week as I share some tips on how not to miss out on your own wedding. Until next time…
“I don’t want kids at my wedding. Now, how do I say that without sounding mean?”
This is one of the most common questions I get asked as a Calgary wedding planner.
So you don’t want children at your wedding. This isn’t because you’re cold-hearted — you would just prefer to celebrate in the company of adults. And you also want your friends/family to have a “night off” to kick back without worrying about their kids.
But how do you say all of this without coming off…well, rude?
You are not inviting children to your wedding – Calgary wedding planner etiquette
I’m sure most of you are wondering if it’s appropriate to state your desire on the wedding invitation. After all, you want to make your intentions clear.
Here’s the thing. It can be off-putting to open up a lovely wedding invitation and see “We request that no children attend”. No matter how pretty you try and make the language or writing, this simple phrase turns a lot of people off.
(Also, “Adults Only” sounds hilariously inappropriate).
Things get even more tricky when only certain children are allowed at a wedding. Sure, they are your nieces and nephews, but your guests will see this as unfair. Your guests may get angry that they had to make babysitting arrangements while others were allowed to bring their children.
Ways to let guests know you are requesting “no children” at your wedding
One way to avoid confusion altogether is to include these 2 phrases on your RSVP cards:
“M_____________________(this is where you write exactly who you are inviting)
We have reserved ___ seats in your honour”
Look at this example:
You will need to go through all the RSVP cards on your wedding invitations and hand write your guest names + the number of guests you’re inviting. You should also address the envelopes specifically to the people you are inviting. This lets your guests know that you are expecting “2″ of them to attend – “Mrs. and Mr. John Smith”.
Please note that this is not fool-proof. You may still get guests that send back their RSVP with the number “2″ crossed out and a “4″ written + the additional guest names. A phone call is required, in this case. You need to talk to your guests directly and clarify that you are only able to invite 2, and explain your situation with tact.
If you are inviting only certain children to your wedding, you will want to give everyone a heads-up long before you send out wedding invites. You can let your guests know that due to venue capacity or efforts to stay within a budget, only a few children will be invited. Also mention that you would love to give your guests a night off from the kids to celebrate!
Can this be an awkward situation? Sure. However, etiquette is essentially making everyone as comfortable as possible. So if you know that you are not inviting children to your wedding, you want to communicate this early on to avoid confusion and hurt feelings.
What do you think? Does this help you with your invitations wording?
Welcome to a new feature on the blog: Vendor Spotlight. This is a chance for you to meet some talented Calgary (and area) wedding vendors and get some expert tips on how to plan your wedding too.
Please meet Nikki McArthur from EpicDanger Photography. Nikki has a big personality and talent to spare — I think she can talk to anybody about anything!
What I love about Nikki (aside from her personality) is her ability to capture quirky & fun moments in your wedding while maintaining timeless style.
When you look at photos from EpicDanger, be it family photos, photos of gorgeous brides and grooms or of Nikki’s ridiculously cute kids, you know you’re getting FUN. But don’t let me try and convince you, check things out for yourself:
EpicDanger, Calgary wedding photographer — Q&A with Calgary wedding planner
What are 5 words you use to describe yourself?
Quirky, Fun, Detailed (that’s my way of not saying type A), Wacky & Gregarious. Fact: the last one was a suggestion from a friend… I had to look it up, cause I’m fancy like that. Then I immediately agreed!
How did you get into wedding photography?
I’ll be honest, I am not that person clinging to a camera in the womb. I didn’t get my first camera until I was one my honeymoon with my hubby almost 9 years ago. I’ve never been so happy. Slowly and surely I’ve taken classes and workshops, upgraded gear, (again and again) started a family and then eventually started a business. I’m now heading into my 4th season.
Describe your photography style
Hmm…it’s always so hard to answer this question as my style always reflects the people I’m photographing at least a little. My images tend to be bright and airy, with an emphasis on letting loose and having fun. I love capturing big smiles, belly laughs and bear hugs!
What are your 5 favourite things in the world?
- My Family, specifically my little lady Danger and her brother Epic
- The way my husband plays the piano
- The sun
- A great hoodie
- An amazing concert
What do you like best about working with brides and grooms?
The best part about working with brides and grooms is seeing how two people with their own quirks and personalities can come together and create this amazing thing. I love the dynamic between people and the fact that I get to show them exactly what their love looks like. As dorky as that sounds
What are your top 3 tips for brides and grooms to get the most out of their wedding photography?
1. It’s likely that the bride might spend more time with her photographer on the day of the wedding than her maid of honour so make sure you damn well like them!
2. Two Photographers are always better than one. Although I’m pretty awesome, I can’t be everywhere at once which is why I always show up to a wedding with a second photographer. As one person it’s hard to capture every little thing that’s happening on the wedding day. It’s inevitable that if it were just me I’d be taking photos of the guys getting their boutonnieres on while the brides great grandmas shows up to give her something “blue”. It’s just Murphy’s law.
3. Get a wedding album! Imagine if the only copy of your parents wedding photos were on a floppy disc? Can’t wait to show the grandkids that Plus, seriously what if zombies come! Wedding albums have come a long way in the past 10 years. You could definitely fit today’s awesome wedding albums in a backpack while running for your life:)
BONUS! 4. Go with Quality over Quantity. Sometimes people get hung up on wanting 12 hours of coverage, with the goal of receiving 1500 images in both colour and black and white. But at the end of the day, your album will fit 100ish images and you’ll print 3-10 for your walls. If you can afford all 12 hours then awesome. But if not, 6 hours of great images is always better than 12 hours of mediocre ones.
Thanks a bunch to Nikki for taking the time to share more about her photography with us. If you want to get more info on Nikki and what she’s all about, be sure to head to the EpicDanger Photography website.
Look out for the next Vendor Spotlight in April!
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